Unmasking Our ‘Mask’

The reality though, is mostly different and might even be quite surprising. During therapy with clients, I have found that it's we that unconsciously rejects ourselves for who we really are and therefore project a false 'presentation of self' towards others.

Let what I just said *sink in*.

To further exacerbated this false notion, our internal self-critic (mostly the punitive parent) constantly knock us down and instigate to completely hide our true selves. This internalised behaviour grows more deep seated roots especially when we have learnt this through traumatic experiences. I am telling you, a trip to the 'unconscious' can be one heck of a ride. But the self awareness treats one finds are delectables for your self development.

BEING GRATEFUL

Luckily, being grateful does not mean convincing myself of some bogus notion that everything in my life is nice and dandy. Nor does it mean being obsess with a grandiose conceptualisation of what it will be. However, living my life with gratitude means I choose to focus my time and attention on what I truly...

CHANGE IS CERTAIN

Years ago, when I was experiencing some difficult times, my therapist told me, “Just remember, nothing ever stays the same. This too shall pass.” Her words really helped me at the time as back then I truly felt as if “this was it.” Since then I have come to realise that such perception is not...

FEAR OF FAILING

Fear can be quite uncomfortable and crippling at times. But to get rid of it completely would be the equivalent of you taking down your home fire alarm system just because it sometimes makes loud and irritating beeping sounds. Being FEARLESS doesn’t mean eliminating fear. It means knowing how to leverage and use fear to...

BE BOLD!!!

Why do we hesitate? Especially, when it comes to those things we say we most want to do with our lives. Why do we wait? Some of us are learning daily but never acting on what we know. Some of us are forever talking but never taking a single step in the direction of what...

EMOTIONAL LIGHTHOUSE

Have you ever been called “emotional”? As a passionate, opinionated young lady, it was definitely a word that had been used to describe me before. But are you someone who let their emotions overwhelm them? EMOTIONS SERVE A PURPOSE Having emotions are what makes us human. Even those emotions that are considered negative serves a...

SERENDIPITY OF SYNCHRONICITY

If like me, you have ever thought, “Wow, what a coincidence!” or stated, “It just showed up out of the blue!” then you were likely experiencing a moment of synchronicity. You see, I first came across Synchronicity during my studies and even though I was somewhat intrigued by the concept, I never truly understood or...

Tough Times

Life can be over the top difficult at times. Trust me… It can often box us in and beat us down. While no one ever said that life would be easy, many of us are frequently ill-prepared for just how hard things can get. When we suffer through repeated failures and setbacks after setbacks, getting...

Life’s Passion

Are you struggling to figure out what you are passionate about? Inadvertently, putting your happiness on hold because life feels so pointless? Well, you don’t have to do that. As frustrating as it might be to search and search and not find your passion, it only serves to undermine your efforts in delaying your happiness...

Relationships Reflections

You are not allowed to decide how others navigate the relationships in their lives. You do not have permission to focus on others relationships or project your thoughts and feelings about how they have chosen to respond or relate to them. We all have our reasons for being the way we are. However, if you...

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