The reality though, is mostly different and might even be quite surprising. During therapy with clients, I have found that it's we that unconsciously rejects ourselves for who we really are and therefore project a false 'presentation of self' towards others.
Let what I just said *sink in*.
To further exacerbated this false notion, our internal self-critic (mostly the punitive parent) constantly knock us down and instigate to completely hide our true selves. This internalised behaviour grows more deep seated roots especially when we have learnt this through traumatic experiences. I am telling you, a trip to the 'unconscious' can be one heck of a ride. But the self awareness treats one finds are delectables for your self development.